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Hello Aibek!
Traveling around the world is the general dream to people. But what's the price behind? You're the suitable one to answer this question!
The price is not concerning about the money, but the relation to family. Traveling almost for friendship and inner self discovery, few time stay with family.
It's ok when duration is short, but with a long stay in another country, how could I keep familyship well?
Is there any responsibility for child to stay with parents and care of them(it's a common value in Chinese culture) How about family members getting old or ill, back home for companion or keep forwards my way?
Aibek is known for sharing stories and mentoring friends, it will be my pleasure if you'd like sharing with me:)
Best Regards,
C. @Taipei
Hi C!
First of all thank you for your letter, and I apologize for a late reply. The reason is that I couldn't answer it right after I read it, and I started thinking on it. I mean these thoughts and such comparisons were always in my mind, but rather in an unorganized way and randomly coming above the surface of my thoughts.
One view that I've been sticking to for all these years is that if one dreams about seeing the world, then he/she should do it now, especially when they are young, mobile and not attached to real responsibilities. Because once the responsibilities come, we will have to dedicate our time and energy for them. Take a marriage or a child, for example. Or some high position in the company or society or whatever you are working for. Or the parents that grew too old to be able to care for themselves... So the only time you could travel then will be after you retire. when we are 50-60 years old... Isn't it a pity to start discovering the beauty of the world and its nations only at that age? We won't be that mobile and energetic anyway, and our chances making lifelong foreign friends are really low, and thus the experience, or "living the diversity", we can get from it... Probably the only thing we could do then is to take those bus tours with other old people to visit some tourist attractions... You have probably seen such tour groups. I wouldn't want to start discovering the world in this way. I believe that you should enjoy such experience when you are young, to discover the world and yourself together with it, make friends from different nations and religions and understand them better, appreciate the diversity that comes with it.
About our families. I agree that staying too long away from the family has its cost. But all in all distance should not be the obstacle for the family matters. It is not like a long distance relationship between man and woman. Family and blood bonds are lifelong and irreplaceable. Especially in the cultures like Chinese or Kyrgyz, where family bonds are really strong. I could briefly share my own experience. I missed watching my parents growing older and my sister and brothers growing up. I couldn't closely share their joy and sadness when they probably needed me. And it's not only about the family. I missed the weddings or other special events of my relatives or childhood friends, neither could I share their pain when they had bad times. It's neither easy nor cheap to travel to a remote place like Kyrgyzstan, and one can't easily afford it to travel there for all such occasions. Well, phone calls and emails made it a bit easier, but after a while I started losing the connections with them. But not with my family, and some of the close friends. Another important thing is that I have 3 brothers and 1 sister, thus I always had someone there to stay with my parents. If you have any siblings, then your responsibility for your parents are shared and can be agreed. In terms of supporting your family, you can do that while being away for a while. The best is that if you can combine your foreign experience with a good job that will allow you grow professionally and earn enough money to support yourself and maybe even your parents a bit. If they are in the position to be supported. Such support is fine for some years, but I guess what our parents really need is their children to be near them. And being away so long, I feel this need myself too. Just to be close to them, support them and feel their support closely, just to enjoy my mom's food, share with each other our dreams and problems, etc. Nowadays I am planning to return back to my country or somewhere very close. One reason is to be close to my family. Having lived abroad in 4 different countries for 11 years, I partly satisfied my childhood dream of seeing the world and I am looking forward to returning without any regrets.
Another thing to be considered carefully is your career plans. Living in different countries is fun and cool. But shouldn't be dragged for too long. Changing country each year sounds romantic, but it affects your professional growth, especially when you are fresh from university. If you are seeking for foreign work experience, then it's good to plan to stay there for 2-3 years at least. When it's only 1 year, it's like adapting to a new life and leaving the whole potential experience at the beginning. If you want to travel just to see the world, then it is different.
One last opinion about responsibility. We do have responsibilities for our families, friends, society, and so on. But our biggest responsibility is our own lives. And the decision should be made by ourselves only. If others affect our decisions, later we may end up blaming them for our failures, unrealized dreams and lost hopes.
I hope I could share my thoughts on what you asked. I am not in the position to give answers to those questions. I just shared my own experience and humble thoughts. Sharing is caring after all :)
Good luck!
Aibek

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The most known tourist attraction of Barcelona. It is indeed astonishingly beautiful and unique of a kind! There's so much architecture and art in every piece of it, and I was glad that I took my binoculars to get a better look. Antoni Gaudi started the construction in 1882, and his work continued till today after he died in tram accident. He was buried inside Sagrada Familia.
Here's a bit of information from Wikipedia;
"...privately-funded Roman Catholic church that has been under construction in Barcelona, Catalonia, Spain since 1882 and is not expected to be complete until at least 2026. A portion of the building's interior is scheduled to open for public worship and tours by September of 2010.
Considered the master-work of renowned Catalan architect Antoni Gaudí (1852–1926), the project's vast scale and idiosyncratic design have made it one of Barcelona's (and Spain's) top tourist attractions for many years....
... Every part of the design of La Sagrada Família is rich with Christian symbolism, as Gaudí intended the church to be the "last great sanctuary of Christendom". Its most striking aspect is its spindle-shaped towers. A total of 18 tall towers are called for, representing in ascending order of height the Twelve Apostles, the four Evangelists, the Virgin Mary and, tallest of all, Jesus Christ...
...The building works are expected to be completed around 2026, the 100th anniversary of Gaudí's death, although the likelihood of meeting this date is disputed. Computer Aided design technology has been used to speed up the construction of the building; initially, the construction work was expected to last for several hundred years, based on building techniques available in the early 1900s...
...Construction on Sagrada Família is not supported by any government or official church sources. Private patrons funded the initial stages. Money from tickets purchased by tourists is now used to pay for the work, and private donations are accepted through the Friends of the Temple.
The construction budget for 2009 is €18 million."
Here some late greetings from Barcelona. Alex and his family hosted me and Fatima at their place in the outskirts of Barcelona. We had great few days there eating lots of delicious food (paella, bull's tail, variety of seafood), watching some architecture by Gaudi, driving around Barcelona and Olympic Town, and watching Barca game at Camp Nou.
Once again I want to thank Alex and his family, and also Vanessa and her family for inviting us for a nice breakfast!